Monday, August 31, 2020

DO THE THING EVERY DAY THAT SCARES YOU______ THINK POSITIVE , POSITIVE OUTCOMES

Positive Thinking





  • Fear is one of the biggest contributors to thinking negatively in life. Fear can cause us to always see the bad side of situations and constantly expect the worse, resulting in our living a less fulfilled life than we hoped for and even holding us back from achieving our dreams. 

  • Fear can stop us doing plenty of different things that we’d love to do – for example, maybe you have always wanted to visit Europe, but your fear of flying gets in the way each time you try to get on the plane. The negative thoughts regarding air travel are stronger than the positive ones about tour- ing Europe, eventually taking control and limiting you to what you can do with your life. 


Switching your negative thoughts for positive ones is a process which may take a lot of time. Some people are naturally more optimistic than others; but even the most optimistic people on earth can still find themselves thinking in an extremely negative manner when it comes to their fears and anxieties. 

Overcoming negative thinking is a vital step to overcoming your fears, as learning the strategies and methods which are vital to replacing negative thoughts with positive ones can help you gain control of your fears and anxieties when they start to creep up on you. 

Practicing Gratitude 
Saying ‘thank you’ is one of the simplest and easiest things which we can do, often resulting in people saying it mindlessly without taking a minute to step back and practice real gratitude. Practicing gratitude daily can help you to create a more positive mind-set and completely transform your attitude towards life. 

  • In and of itself, practicing gratitude won’t suddenly transform you into a fearless person. But, it can have a significant indirect effect on your fears by giving you the means to become more positive and think more optimistically about a range of different situations. When you practice gratitude you become a happier person, and naturally the positive thoughts and mind-set will follow. 

  • Practicing gratitude helps us to see situations in a more optimistic manner, lessens panic and also invokes feelings of empathy whilst lessening feelings of regret, envy, jealousy and even fear. Practicing gratitude enables you to see situations that once may have been scary for you in a more positive light, minimizing the negative thoughts and anxiety which you feel. 

How to Practice Gratitude 
When you begin to work on practicing gratitude, it’s important that you do it for the right reasons. Forcing yourself to feel grateful for things simply be- cause you hope that it will diminish your fear will have no real effect, and the majority of the time you’ll be faking it – which won’t have any effect on your fears at all, unfortunately. 

  • Instead, learn to practice gratitude in order to become truly thankful for what you have. Put aside thoughts of your fears, and see becoming a more grateful person as something completely separate from your goal of conquering your fears. 

In time, your newly positive mind-set will naturally contribute towards helping you view your fears in a more optimistic light, subsequently enabling you to be in a better position to overcome them. 

  • At the beginning, practicing gratitude will for many people mean that a conscious effort has to be made. If you have fallen foul of negative thought pat- terns and chronic pessimism, it’s going to be difficult for you to begin to change these habits and start to be more thankful for what you have and think positively about the future. 

Begin by making small changes and using strategies such as taking five minutes out of your day to write down everything that you’re thankful for right now. Even if you’re having a particularly bad day, you’d be surprised at all the things which you can still be thankful for. 

  • Some days you may only feel thankful that you’ve got your health or a roof over your head – but these are things that many people don’t have. Practicing gratitude helps you to learn not to take things for granted. In turn, you’ll begin to see everything more positively – even the worst of your fears. 

Changing the Tone of Your Thoughts 
Changing your mind-set to one which is more positive is absolutely crucial to conquering your fears. If you think negatively most of the time, feeling fearful will naturally become more intensified with negative thoughts and emotions such as ‘I can’t do this’, or ‘if I do this, something bad will happen’



Learning how to change the tone of your thoughts is all down to knowing how to recognize negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. As with practicing gratitude, this will also take a conscious effort on your part. For example, you could write a ‘thought swap list’ which could read something like this:

  • ‘I can’t do this’ – swap for: ‘I will try my best to do this’

  • ‘Why is this happening?’ – swap for: ‘This is happening for a reason, and I’ll find that reason’

  • ‘I’m a failure’ – swap for: ‘I’m not ready to give up trying’

  • ‘I’m going to have a hard time adjusting to this’ – swap for: ‘I’m ready to tackle the challenges I’m about to face!’’

  • In your list, include all the negative thoughts which you frequently find pop- ping into your mind, and come up with a more positive alternative. Each time you start to think negatively, you’ll know exactly what you should be focusing on thinking instead. It’ll take time to get used to but eventually, you’ll begin to view things more positively as a force of habit.

Sunday, August 30, 2020

WHERE THERE IS ANGER , THERE IS ALWAYS PAIN UNDERNEATH ( ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS)

 Anger management: 

Keeping your temper in check can be challenging. Use simple anger management tips — from taking a timeout to using "I" statements — to stay in control.



Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

  • Ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

1. Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

2. Once you're calm, express your anger
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them

3. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

4. Take a timeout
Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.

5. Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.

6. Stick with 'I' statements
To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes" instead of "You never do any housework."

7. Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

8. Use humor to release tension
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

9. Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

10. Know when to seek help
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Seek help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.

ANGER IS A YOUR BIGGEST ENEMY ______ CONTROL IT

 Taming the Hulk Within - Dealing With Anger


Introduction

  • According to one online source, anger can be defined as "a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility." We have all experienced anger, and there have been times that we have not dealt appropriately with it. The Bible has several verses on anger, but we will only mention a few. Proverbs 15:1 tells us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
  • This verse clearly shows us that how we respond to others can abate or stimulate anger. Proverbs 22:24 admonishes us not to "make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered... " Verse 25 tells us about the consequence: "you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared." Proverbs 29:11 presents an interesting contrast: "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." Proverbs 29:22 speaks of two negative effects of anger: "An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins." These verses and more warn us of the dangers of anger.
  • Anger is a naturally occurring emotion, but it must be properly controlled and managed. For example, Ephesians 4:26, 27 says, "In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold." God does get angry, but His anger is a righteous anger that is directed against sin. Jesus was visibly angry when He drove the moneychangers out of the temple. More often than not, we do not always handle anger in the best possible way.


Expressing Anger

  • Let's look at some of the negative ways in which we can express our anger. Some people believe that venting is an appropriate way of dealing with anger. This can take the form of "telling off" the person who has made us angry, or telling others about what a person has done to us. This may seem to give a sense of satisfaction and release, but it really does little to reduce our anger. In reality, it does the opposite: the more we vent, the angrier we become. If we develop a habit of venting about various situations, we will intensify our feelings of anger. In other words, we will increasingly become angry persons, until eventually every negative situation produces an angry response.
  • Another negative way of dealing with anger is to become abusive. There are generally five forms of abuse: verbal, emotional, physical, sexual and neglect. Verbal abuse has to do with making negative and insulting statements that can make a person feel insignificant. It includes accusing, blaming, threatening, name calling, bossing people around and other such demeaning statements. Emotional abuse is usually seen in all forms of abuse. It involves speaking and acting in such a way that a person constantly feels worthless, guilty and unimportant leading to feelings of depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Physical abuse involves deliberately causing physical pain to others: for example, a husband may beat a wife or in some cases, a wife may physically attack a husband. Sexual abuse is forcing undesirable sexual behavior on someone. Neglect involves not taking care of the needs of persons that should be able to expect that care: for example it could include parents not taking care of the needs of their children. These forms of abuse can happen when people feel angry either at the person that they are victimizing or at other people and situations.

Another common way of dealing with anger is displaced aggression. In this type of situation, persons may feel afraid to confront the person that is causing their anger. It may also be that the person is not accessible or that there is a certain powerlessness to address the person or the problem. In those cases, the persons take out their anger on others. It could be family members or it could be complete strangers. This may give the persons a feeling of satisfaction, but it ends up hurting and alienating others.

  • In cases of displaced aggression, we may also encounter passive aggression. Some people when they are angry are retaliatory and deal with the situation in a confrontational way. These are usually choleric type personalities who are not afraid to duke it out with anyone who opposes them. However, there are some people that are quietly dangerous.
  • They are not the kinds of persons to attack you directly, but they will find ways to take revenge. In the office, it may take the form of an important file being misplaced or the convenient forgetting of a responsibility. The goal is to sabotage. At times, this could be a subconscious reaction; in other words, the person has internalized responding in a passive aggressive way.

People can express anger by becoming bitter, unforgiving and by hating others. Bitterness can be defined as intense antagonism or hostility. It can also be defined as exhibiting intense animosity. Bitterness can be directed to the persons who hurt you or it can be directed to persons who remind you of those who hurt you. Unforgiveness is refusing to forgive, to let go of the anger we feel towards persons who have hurt us.

It may include wishing bad for those persons or intentionally wanting to hurt them. Hate is intense or passionate dislike for someone. In instances of hatred, you don't want to be near or around the person; you may gossip about or slander the individual or you may find ways to victimize or hurt the individual.

  • There are several other ways to deal with anger. For example, people can deal with anger by withdrawing. In order to avoid conflict or retaliating in a harsh way, some people withdraw. This can be taken to an extreme where people become antisocial. Internalized anger can lead to depression: people may feel powerless to do anything about the situation, so they become depressed. Some people deal with anger by becoming sarcastic. Some seek to victimize others or in extreme cases resort to discrimination, violence and murder.

Negative Effects

            Adversely effect on relationships

  • Anger when not properly dealt with can negatively impact relationships. Marriages can be destroyed: some persons have separated or divorced. In some cases, people live together, but the marriage is miserable and unfulfilling. Relationships can break down between children and parents or between siblings. Friendships can also be devastated when anger is not handled appropriately. Anger can also prevent us from building healthy relationships. If people perceive us as angry persons, they will not want to be around us.
  • HEATH 

Anger can also affect our health. It can lead to sicknesses such as hypertensions; some persons have had heart attacks; others have developed shortness of breath. Anger can make us more vulnerable to various sicknesses. It causes an increase in our heart rate, blood pressure and levels of adrenaline. Anger and stress make a deadly combination. Anger can also lead to backaches, headaches, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome, and other illnesses. Essentially, we cannot afford to remain angry because our bodies were not designed to handle it.

  • RELATION TO ALLAH

Anger can negatively affect our relationship with God. The Bible condemns anger because it tends to lead to rash and ungodly actions. Anger can also lead to wrong attitudes toward others such as bitterness and unforgiveness. The Bible makes it clear that God will not forgive us if we harbor unforgiveness toward others. Anger can also lead to responding in retaliatory and vindictive ways.

Some persons are angry at God: they feel that since God is sovereign and all powerful, He should ensure that they never experience any significant hardship. Being angry can also demonstrate a lack of faith and trust in God's ability to work out the various situations in our lives. Being angry may inhibit our desire to pray, praise God, get into the word and to attend church.

  • IMBALANCE MIND SETUP

When we don't properly deal with anger, it can lead to distorted thinking. Persons may feel like victims; they may think that the whole world is against them and that nothing ever goes right for them. They believe that they could be successful, but there are antagonistic forces working against them.

NEUROTIC THINKING

Distorted thinking is also neurotic thinking where persons do not have a correct view of reality. Persons can become suspicious of people and their intentions. They feel that persons who show any interest in them and their welfare have some kind of hidden agenda.

Anger has the power to negatively touch all the significant areas of our lives. We know that it can affect the home, but it can also affect our job. We can become hostile to other workers and/or customers. Persons who are constantly angry are difficult to work with: you never know how to please them. 

JUDGEMENT

Their job performance suffers because they don't know how to properly relate to others and because their anger clouds their judgment and affects their ability to focus on their tasks. Employers may overlook angry employees for promotions, which may make those employees feel victimized and disenfranchised. Unfortunately, those employees never take a sobering look at themselves and the negative attitude that they have developed.

Dealing with Anger

  • Anger is a naturally occurring emotion, but we must manage it and not allow it to control us. We already know some of the negative ways in which anger can affect us, so we must learn to deal with it. One way that we can deal with it is to pray. We can talk to God about what is bothering us. The Psalms are filled with examples of this. God can intervene to change our situation, or He can give us the grace and wisdom to deal with the problem.

There may be unresolved issues from our past that we need God to expose and deal with. Perhaps our anger springs from the horrible relationship we had with our parents. Perhaps there were situations of rape and abuse. Perhaps we were offended by a friend, by the church, or by a Christian brother or minister. We may need God to heal us of these hurts, to release them, and to release the offending persons.

We also need to ask God for the fruit of the Holy Spirit (see Galatians 5:22, 23). The first quality of the fruit is love. We must demonstrate unconditional love to all people. The Bible challenges us to love and bless our enemies. We can't do that in our strength. It is natural to want to retaliate against those who have hurt us, but God doesn't want us to do what is natural; He wants us to do what is godly.

  • The fruit also includes joy. A joyful person cannot be an angry person. Joyful people are too busy enjoying God and His many blessings. Joyful people just want to see the good in everything. They take seriously God's instruction to rejoice in the Lord always.

The Bible encourages us to bless those who hurt us. Here is what Matthew 5:39 - 42 has to say: But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.

  • Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. Romans 12:14 says, Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. We are told that if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink (Romans 12:20). When people make us angry, we need to think of ways to bless them. This seems so contrary; we bless those who do good to us, but to bless those who do bad to us will require nothing less than the supernatural grace of God.

God has placed the saint in a fellowship of believers. This means that we are not alone, that there are others we can talk to who can pray for us and give us godly counsel. We need to find mature Christian believers to whom we can talk. Often they can identify with our hurt and encourage us through challenging times.

We can also turn to our leaders, who usually have training and experience in dealing with difficult situations. This kind of intervention can prevent us from making critical mistakes and can also help us gain a fresh perspective on the problem.

  • There may be a need for more professional intervention. We may need to consult a Christian counselor, a person who has been specifically trained to deal with emotional and psychological problems. In some instances, deliverance may be needed. In cases like these, the anger is not natural; it is a satanic stronghold that needs to be dislodged. Perhaps it is a generational influence that needs to be destroyed.

The Prayer of Serenity advises us to accept the things we cannot change. That is good advice. There are some things in life that we cannot do anything about. It doesn't make sense getting angry at those things. Many of these things really have no significant impact on our lives. There are just things that we get upset over. We also need to be realistic about life. As has often been said, life happens.

  • It is the nature of life to have some unexpected twists and turns. It would be scary, though unlikely, if everything in life was completely predictable. We must also learn to forgive and let go. People will hurt us, some circumstances will not go in our favor, but we must learn to deal with these things and move on. We learn to put our faith in God, trusting in His Word that He will cause all things to work together for our good.

Conclusion

We can be raging hulks dominated and controlled by anger, or we can be people who are able to handle and overcome anger. Anger does not have to be a destructive force in our life. We don't have to walk around being angry at a world that seems to be unfair and unjust. We can actually live to enjoy life, to rise above its negative circumstances. The hulk can be tamed and we can regain our humanity.

HOW TO DEAL WITH STRESS

 Life can be stressful; sometimes you'll have to deal with ongoing stress positively. Stress can have a variety of causes such as family problems, job problems, financial difficulties, poor health, or even the death of someone close to you. 

It is important to recognize the causes (some stress is natural), take steps to deal with the root of the problem, and tackle the symptoms. Most importantly, don't battle stress alone — ask for help from a friend and, if necessary, a professional.



1. Treating Stress with Lifestyle Changes

Exercise regularly. Targeted exercise goes a long way toward freeing your body of stress hormones and increasing your endorphin levels - responsible for feelings of happiness. Carve out time during your busy day to exercise to both keep your body healthy and as a natural outlet for your stress. You should notice the difference.

  • Try to raise your heartbeat to 120-180 beats per minute for about 30 minutes per day. If you don't have time to do all thirty minutes in one sitting, don't worry; you can break up the exercise time however you need to fit your schedule.
  • Walking for even 20-30 minutes each day is sufficient if that's all that you can afford. Walking isn't just good for stress-reduction: Adults over 40 who walked briskly for at least 150 minutes a week saw their life expectancy increase by 3.4 – 4.5 years.
  • Swimming, hiking, and biking have been shown to reduce stress as well. A benefit of swimming and biking is that, opposed to jogging, they create far less joint strain, which makes them perfect for people with joint problems or those wanting to prevent them.

Get enough sleep. Give your body the sleep it wants, and your stress levels will take a nosedive. Sleep is a mechanism by which your body recuperates and restores its energy reserves. If you're not getting enough sleep, your body will use stress to keep you active and alert in the absence of stored energy.

  • Most adults need at least 7-8 hours of sleep per night. Young children and older adults need more, about 9-10 hours of sleep per night.
  • Get into regular sleeping habits. If you can, try to go to bed and wake up at the same time each night and morning. Routinizing your sleep cycle will teach your body when it's supposed to go to be tired, aiding in better sleep and less sleep deprivation.
  • 49% of Americans who don’t get enough sleep blame stress as the culprit. If you believe that you're stuck in a vicious cycle of sleep deprivation/stress creation, see your doctor for more targeted advice.

Eat properly. Your body needs to be healthy, strong, happy and properly fueled to help you tackle stress. Like it or not, stress is a bodily reaction to anything that disturbs its natural state, meaning that your body can have a profound effect on producing and relieving stress.

  • Water has been shown to relieve stress. That's because a dehydrated body creates cortisol, a stress hormone. An under-hydrated body creates stress to motivate the owner of the body to properly care for him/herself.
  • Start decreasing caffeine and alcohol intake. In some cases, alcohol intake increases stress response in humans while being linked to substance dependency, a stressful condition itself. Caffeine is also responsible for raising stress levels, especially at work, so try to stick to water as a general rule.
  • Eat a healthy breakfast and healthy snacks during the day. It is better to eat several smaller meals throughout the day than to consume three large meals.
  • For a healthy stress-free diet, consume more complex carbohydrates such as whole-grain breads and pasta, foods high in vitamin A such as oranges, foods high in magnesium like spinach, soybeans or salmon, and black and green tea, which contain antioxidants.

Learn to relax. Relaxing your body, by whatever natural means, is a great way to reduce stress. Don't expect your stress to immediately dissipate; it can take time. In most cases, try not to fixate on the stress itself while you're relaxing. Think of something placid and tranquil, or think of nothing in particular. Let your body tell your mind that everything is okay.

  • Listen to calm and soft music. Music really gets you relaxed and happy. Try listening to music with no vocals and pick music with instruments like the flute, piano, or violin. Classical, jazz, or folk tunes generally work well, but if that's not your cup of tea, choose music that puts you in a good place.
  • Take a bath. Add Epsom salts or other fragrant bath salts for a luxurious touch. Indulge in your private time and relax the body.
  • Get a massage. Either having a professional massage or con a loved one into giving you a stress-relieving massage. Use lotions or oils and dim ambient light for the most relaxing atmosphere.
  • Start a diary or journal. You don't have to write in it every day. Writing down what's bothering you, what you've been busy with, and how you feel may help you to expel your negative emotions.

Practice yoga and meditation. Although you could technically consider yoga your daily exercise, practicing the deep stretches and slow body movements will help you to clear your mind. Meditating - clearing your mind - while practicing gentle yoga will give double the relaxation effect to ease your stress.

  • Use guided imagery to imagine a place that makes you feel at peace. Imagine somewhere that you feel happy; focus on the details to fully remove your mind from the present.
  • Do yoga alone or in a group setting to help you learn new poses. As you advance in your yoga, you will be able to form complex stretches that force you to focus and take your mind off your stress.
  • Practice deep relaxation by doing progressive muscle relaxation. This is when you work through your body by tensing your muscles, holding the tension for ten seconds, and then releasing it. This will soften and relieve all the muscles in your body.

Do things you love. Often when you're stressed, you can look at your schedule and see that you are lacking time for doing your favorite activities. Whether that be drawing, writing, reading, playing sports, or cooking, set aside time on a daily basis to do those things you enjoy.

  • Try picking up a new hobby to help you relieve your stress. If you've always wanted to learn how to ride horses or build model airplanes, then do it! Learning something new will take your mind off of whatever is bothering you, and give you a new hobby to enjoy.
  • If you have a very busy schedule, set aside at least just ten minutes per day to do what you enjoy. Although ideally you should spend thirty minutes to an hour, allowing just a small break from your hectic schedule will be enough to lower your stress levels.

2. Treating Stress with Mental Activities

Avoid negative thinking. Acknowledge the positive in your life and begin to re-establish some balance in your emotional register. Avoid focusing on only the bad things that happened during your day, but consider the good as well.

  • Stop and count your blessings. Write down even the simplest things that you have and enjoy: a roof over your head, a bed to sleep on, quality food, warmth, security, good health, friends or family. Acknowledge that not everyone has these things.
  • Say something positive to yourself as soon as you wake up every morning. This will keep your energy and mind focused on positive thinking. Be thankful for each day that you have; you never know which one could be your last!
  • Use positive self-talk. Reinforce your resolve through positive statements such as, "I can handle this, one step at a time," or "Since I've been successful with this before, there's no reason why I can't do it again."
  • Visualize positive things; this does not take long but can help you regain focus. Think about success, read about successful people. Don't admit defeat before you've been defeated. You don't deserve to beat yourself down so that you can punish yourself.

Organize your life. Set goals for what you need to achieve during the day, then write a "to do list". Add some breathing room in the middle of the day that will give you time to recharge. Taking control of your time and priorities will significantly decrease the amount of stress you feel.

  • Know your limits. Be realistic about what you can and can't accomplish in a day. It's not helpful if you bite off more than you can chew and then castigate yourself for not getting it done.
  • Prioritize your tasks. Work on finishing the highest priority (most urgent/important) items first. Put low priority items on the bottom of your list.
  • Do your most unpleasant or most difficult task at the beginning of the day when you are fresh, thereby avoiding the stress of last minute preparation. Procrastination feeds stress!
  • Emphasize quality in your work, rather than sheer quantity. Take pride in having done something well as opposed to having done a lot of something.
  • Schedule your day, if possible, so that stressful scenarios don't overlap, reducing the number of stressors you must juggle at any one time. Stagger deadlines for large projects.
  • Review your goals at the end of the day and think about everything you have achieved. This is cathartic and will help you sleep better. Check off the things that you accomplished on the to do list.

Identify the things that put you under stress. Make sure you understand why you become stressed so that you can try to avoid these circumstances. Knowledge is powerful, and self-knowledge is especially powerful.

  • If you notice, for example, that you regularly get stressed at a certain time with a certain person, go out of your way to prepare your brain for the upcoming stress. If the person is someone you love and trust, tell them how they make you feel in a non-threatening way. If you don't feel comfortable sharing your misgivings, remind yourself that the occasion is momentary, the feeling will pass, and you'll be in complete control soon.
  • Rehearse. When you know that you are going to face a stressful situation, rehearse how you are going to handle it. Picture yourself overcoming it successfully. Create a mental videotape that you can play over and over in your mind.

Stop worrying about the things you cannot change. This especially comes with things such as politics, and often applies to other individuals. Learning to accept things as they are is an important coping mechanism, but not as easy as it sounds.

  • Is the problem a real problem you’re currently facing, rather than an imaginary what-if? If the problem is an imaginary what-if, how likely is it to happen? Is your concern realistic? Can you do something about the problem or prepare for it, or is it out of your control
  • Admitting to yourself that there's nothing you can do about a particular issue will go a long way in helping you adjust. Acknowledge that maybe you feed off of stress, like an adrenaline junkie feeds off adrenaline, but that in your case, it's becoming unmanageable.

Take responsibility for making your life what you want it to be. It is less stressful to make decisions and take action than to feel powerless and react to others' decisions. Decide what you want and go for it!

  • Learn to say no on occasion. You cannot do everything you are asked, and even if you could, you probably wouldn't want to.
  • Resist the urge to be perfect at all times. Perfectionism can cause huge amounts of stress if you hold yourself to unattainable standards. Be realistic about what you can and can't do. Don't set yourself up for failure just because you want to stroke your ego.
  • Don't get down on yourself for failing if you tried your hardest. You gave it your all, and nobody would ask you for more. Hold yourself accountable, but don't make being accountable impossible.
  • Be one of your own best friends. It may sound cheesy, like something out of a Leave it to Beaver commercial, but it's true: Love yourself, depend (mostly) on yourself, and celebrate the things you do well. Loving yourself will ease the anxious question "Am I good enough?" and replace it with "I know I'm good enough."

Develop a sense of humor. One of the barriers to stress reduction is the temptation to take things too seriously. It's okay to back off from your intensity and see the humour in life's situations. Laugh a little or better yet, laugh a lot! See the humour in stress.

  • Learn to laugh at yourself. Don't put yourself down, or lash your self-esteem, but try to be playfully deprecating about yourself from time to time. How are you expected to laugh at other things if you can't even laugh at yourself?

Learn to lean on friends and loved ones. This is one of the most important things, as keeping things bottled up can only cause more stress. Your friends, if they are true friends, will try to understand what you're going through, and will accompany that empathy with a sincere desire to help out if at all possible.

  • Ask your friends for help. If you want something done but can't find the strength or the time to do it, it's okay to ask your friends or loved ones for help. Express your gratitude and extend the offer of help as a kind of reciprocity.
  • Look for people's respect, not approval — your friends included. Your friends will respect you because they love you, even if they don't always agree with you. Your enemies (if you have any) will respect you because your motivations come from a sincere, heartfelt place. Resist the urge to be loved and accepted by everyone; it's literally a Herculean task. You'll find yourself a lot less stressed and a lot more satisfied if you do.
  • Seek out positive people rather than negative ones. It sounds like a truism because it is: Surrounding yourself with people who are fun-loving, excited, and kind will help you avoid the stress you'd be feeling with pessimistic, cynical, mean people.

Have more positive self talk. Nothing else helps intensify stress more than negative thoughts. When you start to having the feeling of defeat is the perfect time for a little reminder.

  • You know yourself better than anyone else, and you are the perfect person to give you the reminder that it will get better.
  • Remind yourself of all of the things you have accomplished in the past. All of those small accomplishments add up to very big ones over time.
  • Change the words you use. Instead of saying, "I can't do this," say something like, "I've been able to get through this before, and I will get through it this time too."

3. Stand Up for Yourself

If someone is threatening you and you have stress and anxiety, stand up to them and tell them how you feel.

Tell someone you trust about your stress and tell them everything that is bothering you. Revealing yourself is a good way to express how you are feeling and how to deal with it.

Get something like a stress relief ball or if you having a punching bag, go there everyday and yell at it or punch it. That can help you express your stress and then relax your body. Holding in emotions is not good for your body.

Wednesday, August 26, 2020

HOW TO MANAGE STRESS EASILY

 Stress is an inevitable emotional component that we all need to face almost every day in our life, and that affects us both psychologically and physically. However, we should focus on understanding how to manage stress in our life. It is crucial how we encounter stress and how we cope up with different stressors all around us. Before proceeding further with the analysis of how to manage stress, you need to have a clear understanding about stress and its impact on your life.



Stress and Its Impact

Stress refers to such conditions when all of our emotional awareness gets centralized to a certain point of anxiety and tension. Not necessarily each and every experience of stress is bad for us, for example, stress before marriage; however, prolonged stress is found to be harmful to our health, whether it be a positive or a negative one. Say, for example, you are working as a grant writer on freelance basis. You are earning quite handsomely. However, you find that earning and work is directly proportionate and you can earn as much as you can work.

Gradually, you put extra effort to make your earning higher. It is good to take stress up to certain point. It will enhance your potentiality. But when you simply forget to stop working till you get fully exhausted, that means you simply forget to prioritize between your health and work.

No matter what, it won't run for too long time. The result is the breakdown of health and the occurrence of health hazards associated with stress such as headache, fatigue, exhaustion, irritation, anger, depression, cardiac complications and many more. So, as we can understand, at any point of our life we need to know how to manage stress in order to maintain a healthy balance in our life.

Combating with Stress

The first important thing is to remember that stress is a truly individualized experience. What seems stressful to me may not seem stressful to you. So the pattern of management should essentially be individualized. However, here in this article, we are discussing some common modes of operation that are generally used for managing stress.

The modern world demands for time management. If you cannot manage your time properly, it is highly likely that you will not be able to avoid experiencing stress in your life. Therefore, to know how to manage stress you must first know how to manage your time. The most important rule of time management is priority setting. You should know how to set priority to your task.

Consider the above example, what do you suggest? What should be your action before you get overstressed totally? Yes, you need to take a break and relax. If you have been working under stress for prolonged hour, it is always advisable that you should give yourself time to relax. It will help your body and mind to take rest and get recharged once again.

The next important thing that comes in line is setting up realistic goal in life. It is true even for little works. Say, your daughter is capable of attempting 10 math problems in an hour, whereas you compel her to attend at least 25 per hour, it means you are simply making her overstressed.

The result may come out apparently better, say with an attempt for 13 math problems in an hour, in short term span, but the situation will be deteriorating in long term span resulting in anger, anxiety, frustration, depression and lack of self-esteem. All of these are integral parts of stress. At this point, as you can understand, you need to know how to manage stress by setting up realistic goal. You may work out on step by step basis with an option to absorb more if potentiality allows.

Hence if you are serious about how to manage stress, you need to remember three essential key points. These are - arrange time to relax, set up realistic goal and prioritize your task.

Monday, August 10, 2020

Seven ways to overcome fear during interview and presentation___ fear of presenting and interviewing

Feeling anxious or having some kind of fears is normal when you are about to go for a job interview bearing in mind it could be your perfect shot.  It happens because you are very sure someone is about to scrutinize your mannerism, how you talk, what you say and your appearance when you are on the interview.  If you please the interviewing panel enough, it might land you a job, a good salary and probably a good office but failure to that, you get nothing.

  1. Prepare yourself to boost your confidence level
  2. Think whatever but take it in a positive way
  3. Don’t do anything desperately
  4. Relax and try to analyze things on a bigger picture
  5. Be ready for the expected questions being asked
  6. Try to sell your self by demonstrating your skills and experience
  7. Show your interest in that vacancy and company

Another person has been in control is another fear one is faced with while attending an interview. Having no idea of what the interview is going to say or behave causes anxiety especially to the type A overachievers and losing control can cause an increase in anxiety and stress. The pre-interview anxiety can really cause a mess on your interview day.  Worst cases of bad nerves can cause one to make serious interview mistakes including babbling, blanking out, fidgeting, blurting and sweating.  In some cases, the interview might be distracted by your behavior at the interview such that they might forget your qualifications and strengths making you lose out on the job.

There are various ways in which you can use to fight the anxiety and the job interview fear and calm the nerves during an interview. One great way to make you emerge a winner is preparedness.


  1. Be prepared

Any scout person will tell you to be prepared as their motto says.  Prior preparation is the best way to fight anxiety and calm your nerves. You should always remember that a lot of anxiety can be stressing but there is an amount of anxiety that is healthy in a given situation.  A little anticipation and nervousness might be good in such a way that it can make you sharper and help you perform better. The problem arises when the nervousness builds up and becomes an anxiety case.

Preparation leads to building up of more confidence and helps put you in control such that you look forward to attending an interview. It is possible when you do your homework well. Confidence allows you to channel your nervousness into a positive course. It is a similar case to those of athletics where they train so that they can be the best during their big day.  A lot of practice makes you confident especially when your career aspiration goes hand in hand with the job interview. That confidence is important in eliminating unpleasing nervous behaviors as well put you in command of your body language and the answers you give.

When preparing for a job interview, you need to take into considerations various factors and preparation techniques. Pre-interview anxiety can be eliminated through the following prior-preparation ways:

2. Think positively

It really pays to think positively when the job interviews are at hand. The job search can be a hassle, brutal and even tends to easily get cynical where even the best candidates face rude behavior and multiple rejections. Bitterness and cynicism can be entertained elsewhere like dinner parties but such qualities are not entertained in a job interview and therefore can turn bad on your side. Such happens because no one is ready to hire a candidate with attitude problems no matter how skilled and qualified they look.eing negative can prevent you from expressing and seeing your key points in a clear manner such that you fail to express yourself better in an interview. Preparing and practicing with a positive attitude will help you ace the interview. As it is said, fake it till you make it. Once you are done preparing, tell yourself that you are ready. Listen to music and o anything that makes you generally feel good about the world and yourself. Some people opt listening to motivation talks, speeches. Guided meditations or recording their pep talk. Whichever suits you best, go for it.

It is essential not to forget to put off the music or any other happy sound when you reach your interview destination.  Having your headphones or earphones on at the interview site will make you seem distracted or out of place.  Paying an advance visit to the interview location is also a good way to prepare as unfamiliar environment tends to cause more uncertainty.

There is another worst scenario that might turn out to be a nightmare on the interview day.  Being stuck in traffic, getting lost or running late for the interview flustered and sweaty can be the worst case scenario. It is important to give yourself extra time. If you get to the destination earlier, you can always get into a place next to the interview site, relax, freshen up and re-hydrate.

3. Don’t let desperation take charge

It is important to remember that the job interview is just one opportunity among many no matter how much you need the job.  Your entire future does not depend on this specific job especially that there is not, much said about the position. It might look good on the paper but it is sure nit the only opportunity available for you.

Neediness seems awkward in the interviewer’s point of view. Being enthusiastic is good. You are supposed to view the interview as a first date where you need to show your best qualities and impress the other party. It is not a chance to show all your awkwardness and characteristics of someone who has beer been invited for a date before.

Whatever happens in an interview is a learning opportunity and gives you an experience that will make you a better candidate for the next job interview and an expert in the long run. Focus on bringing out all your confidence and control how you present yourself during an interview.  It is not easy to control the interviewer’s decision but controlling you will help a lot.

It is important you remember that you are there because the interviewers were impressed during your screening interview or by your resume. Therefore, given that compelling reason, it is easy to show your Prowse and emerge the best on your interview day.

4. Using confidence boosting and relaxing techniques

There are various ways in which you can boost your confidence and keep calm during the interview which includes mental imagery and breathing exercise techniques which work perfectly for the nervous candidates.  Such anti-nervousness techniques include:

  • Adapting Power posing. A simple few minters body language trick can help boost your confidence instantly and help in aiding good interview performance. The power posing techniques are all about posing like a superhero before your interview. You can choose to go with the superman or wonder woman kind of confidence and stand strong with your hands on your hips and legs confidently apart. It may seem like a silly and unimportant thing to do, but power posing really helps and works in many cases. It changes your busy chemistry as shown in a recent study which says that power posing reduces the stress hormone (cortisol) and increases the dominance hormones (testosterone).  The higher poser’s interviewees are likely to be chosen as hiring materials by the interviewers. It is ideal to try your posses in private before the main interview.
  • Positive Visualization. Visualizing a successful interview is important in calming your nerves.  You can picture yourself in a room where you are making remarkable impressions and bring out the sense of positivity of the interview in the visual images.  Confidence is boosted especially when you combine strong positivity with the visuals. It is an easy way of focusing your thoughts and creating better space for more confidence.
  • Exploring your Breathing. It is important to explore and get to know the techniques you can use to reduce your breathing anxiety during the interview. A simple deep breath or a pause can do wonders during the interviews and help reduce the sense of panic or any jitters. Anxiety easily affects your breathing which can be shallow and quick breathing affecting your voice and body language.
  • Regulating your pace. When anxiety takes charge, you will find yourself stumbling over words n talking too fast. Being nervous speeds up your speech and mannerism and can make you speak even before considering what has been asked. You should be confident when taking your pausing as rush answers might make you say something you had not intended to give as an answer. Interviewers expect the interviews to have pauses and thing before answering especially when complex answers are involved.
  • Redirecting questions. You are allowed to redirect questions.  You cannot possibly have all the answers to every question asked and sometimes the interviewers will ask stressing questions intentional to gauge your reaction.  A perfect way to deal with such is to redirect the question gracefully with a familiar similar topic outlining your strengths in the process.  You should be calm and collected when doing this and don’t allow any question change your tone interview. Your focus should be on how well you will answer your next questions and have a successful interview to the end.

5. Answering interview questions

Most times, interviewees are faced with the fear of not knowing what the interviewer will ask and re afraid of giving wrong answers. It is important to note that most interviewers will ask similar questions such as asking you your personal interests, about yourself, talents, and your contribution to their firms, why you think you fit in their company and summary other common questions.It is vital to brace yourself with relevant information about the organization. Take your time and investigate bout their policies, past, present and future successful projects of the said organization. If you know someone from there, ask them about their present projects and get to familiarize yourself with the company’s culture before the interview.

6. Showing your experience

People apply for the jobs they best fit in regards to their academic background and experience. However, you might have those and afraid to leave an impression that you, might not know enough. You can eliminate this fear by looking for someone who has an experience in such a post and gets to learn from them. LinkedIn is an ideal place to get professionals and go through their bibliography paying attention to their major milestones and the initiatives they took to get there.  Your resume should be well written to back up your presentation during an interview.

7. Show interest in the organization

Showing genuine interests in the organization’s missions handling your interview is one way of kicking out the fear of thinking that the interviews find you less motivated.  It is vital to genuinely smiles, take part in conversations, engage the interviewer and ask questions about the organization. It is one way of showing how genuine you are interested and you might land a job with such simple and genuine acts.

Most people attending interviews are afraid of the things they don’t know.  Suspense makes one uneasy especially when it comes to things that are related to one’s future.  You will always have difficult and unwanted thoughts such as will I get this job? Are all these efforts to talk well, look good, and make a good presentation really leave a great impression? And so many unwarranted questions because you are not aware what will transpire during the interviews. This reason makes the interviews scary.

As an interviewer, it is important that you are fully aware of your emotional and mental state before going for an interview.  First, think and scrutinize the kind of fears that you have and those that take over your mind and learn about the possible ways to overcome them before setting a foot in the interview room. 

Translation:

انٹرویو اور پریزنٹیشن کے دوران خوف پر قابو پانے کے سات طریقے ___ پیش اور انٹرویو کا خوف

جب آپ ملازمت کے انٹرویو کے لئے ذہن میں رکھے ہوئے ہوں تو پریشانی محسوس کرنا یا کسی طرح کا خوف ہونا معمول کی بات ہے جب یہ آپ کا کامل شاٹ ثابت ہوسکتا ہے۔ ایسا اس لئے ہوتا ہے کیونکہ آپ کو بہت یقین ہے کہ کوئی آپ کے طرز عمل کی جانچ کرنے والا ہے ، آپ کس طرح بات کریں گے ، آپ کیا کہتے ہیں اور جب آپ انٹرویو میں ہوں گے تو آپ کی پیش کش ہوگی۔ اگر آپ انٹرویو کرنے والے پینل کو کافی خوش کر دیتے ہیں تو ، اس سے آپ کو نوکری ، اچھی تنخواہ اور شاید ایک اچھا دفتر مل سکتا ہے لیکن اس میں ناکامی ، آپ کو کچھ بھی نہیں ملتا ہے۔


اپنے اعتماد کی سطح کو بڑھانے کے لئے خود کو تیار کریں


جو بھی سوچیں لیکن اسے مثبت انداز میں لیں


شدت سے کچھ نہ کریں


آرام کریں اور بڑی تصویر پر چیزوں کا تجزیہ کرنے کی کوشش کریں


متوقع سوالات کے لئے تیار رہیں


اپنی صلاحیتوں اور تجربے کا مظاہرہ کرکے اپنے آپ کو فروخت کرنے کی کوشش کریں


اس خالی جگہ اور کمپنی میں اپنی دلچسپی دکھائیں


ایک اور شخص کا کنٹرول رہا ہے ، ایک اور خوف ہے جس کا سامنا انٹرویو میں شرکت کے دوران کرنا پڑتا ہے۔ انٹرویو کیا کہنے یا برتاؤ کر رہا ہے اس کا اندازہ نہ ہونے کی وجہ سے خاص طور پر ٹائپ اے سے زیادہ وزن لینے والوں اور پریشانیاں کھونے سے پریشانی لاحق ہوجاتی ہے۔ انٹرویو سے قبل کی پریشانی آپ کے انٹرویو کے دن واقعتا on گندگی کا باعث بن سکتی ہے۔ خراب اعصاب کی خراب ترین صورتیں کسی کو انٹرویو کی سنگین غلطیاں کرنے کا سبب بن سکتی ہیں جن میں بھنبھوڑنا ، خالی کرنا ، مدھم ہونا ، دھندلا پن اور پسینہ آنا شامل ہے۔ کچھ معاملات میں ، انٹرویو میں آپ کے طرز عمل سے انٹرویو اس طرح متوجہ ہوسکتا ہے کہ وہ آپ کی قابلیت اور قابلیت کو بھول جائیں جو آپ کو ملازمت سے محروم کردیں گے۔


آپ ان اضطراب اور ملازمت کے انٹرویو سے لڑنے کے ل various مختلف طریقوں سے ایک انٹرویو کے دوران اعصاب کو خوفزدہ اور پرسکون کرسکتے ہیں۔ اپنے آپ کو فاتح بنائے جانے کا ایک بہت بڑا طریقہ تیاری ہے۔



تیار رہو


کوئی بھی سکاؤٹ شخص آپ کو بتائے گا کہ آپ تیار رہیں جیسے ان کا نعرہ ہے۔ پریشانی سے لڑنے اور اپنے اعصاب کو پرسکون کرنے کا سب سے بہتر طریقہ پیشگی تیاری ہے۔ آپ کو ہمیشہ یاد رکھنا چاہئے کہ بے حد پریشانی دباؤ کا شکار ہوسکتی ہے لیکن بہت سی اضطراب ہے جو دی گئی صورتحال میں صحت مند ہے۔ تھوڑی سی امید اور گھبراہٹ اس طرح اچھی ہوسکتی ہے کہ یہ آپ کو تیز تر بنائے اور بہتر کارکردگی کا مظاہرہ کرنے میں آپ کی مدد کرے۔ جب پریشانی بڑھ جاتی ہے اور پریشانی کا معاملہ بن جاتا ہے تو مسئلہ پیدا ہوتا ہے۔


تیاری سے زیادہ اعتماد پیدا ہوتا ہے اور آپ کو اس طرح قابو میں رکھنے میں مدد ملتی ہے کہ آپ انٹرویو میں شرکت کے منتظر ہوں۔ یہ تب ممکن ہے جب آپ اپنا ہوم ورک اچھی طرح سے انجام دیں۔ اعتماد سے آپ گھبراہٹ کو ایک مثبت راستہ میں بدل سکتے ہیں۔ یہ ایتھلیٹکس والوں کے ساتھ بھی ایسا ہی معاملہ ہے جہاں وہ تربیت دیتے ہیں تاکہ وہ اپنے بڑے دن کے دوران بہترین ثابت ہوسکیں۔ بہت ساری مشقیں آپ کو پر اعتماد بناتی ہیں خاص کر جب آپ کے کیریئر کی خواہش نوکری کے انٹرویو کے ساتھ ساتھ چل پڑے۔ یہ اعتماد ناگوار اعصابی سلوک کو ختم کرنے میں اہم ہے اور اس کے ساتھ ہی آپ کو اپنی جسمانی زبان اور آپ کے جوابات کی بھی ترتیب دیتے ہیں۔


جب ملازمت کے انٹرویو کی تیاری کرتے ہو تو ، آپ کو مختلف عوامل اور تیاری کی تدابیر پر غور کرنے کی ضرورت ہوتی ہے۔ انٹرویو سے قبل کی پریشانی کو مندرجہ ذیل تیاری کے طریقوں کے ذریعے ختم کیا جاسکتا ہے۔


2. مثبت سوچیں


جب ملازمت کے انٹرویو ہوتے ہیں تو وہ مثبت طور پر سوچنے کی ادائیگی کرتا ہے۔ ملازمت کی تلاش میں پریشانی ، سفاکانہ اور یہاں تک کہ آسانی سے آسانی پیدا ہوسکتی ہے جہاں بہترین امیدواروں کو بھی بدتمیزی اور متعدد تردیدوں کا سامنا کرنا پڑتا ہے۔ ڈنر پارٹیوں کی طرح کہیں اور تلخی اور بدزبانی کا لطف اٹھایا جاسکتا ہے لیکن ملازمت کے انٹرویو میں اس طرح کی خوبیاں تفریح ​​نہیں کی جاتی ہیں اور اسی وجہ سے وہ آپ کی طرف خراب ہوسکتی ہیں۔ ایسا اس لئے ہوتا ہے کیونکہ کوئی بھی امیدوار کو روی attitudeہ کی دشواریوں کے ساتھ ملازمت پر لینے کے لئے تیار نہیں ہوتا ہے ، چاہے وہ کتنا ہی ہنر مند اور اہل نظر آئے۔


منفی ہونے کی وجہ سے آپ اپنے کلیدی نکات کو واضح انداز میں بیان کرنے اور دیکھنے سے روک سکتے ہیں جیسے آپ انٹرویو میں اپنے آپ کو بہتر طور پر ظاہر کرنے میں ناکام ہوجاتے ہیں۔ ایک مثبت رویہ کے ساتھ تیاری اور مشق سے آپ انٹرویو کو اکٹھا کرنے میں مدد کریں گے۔ جیسا کہ کہا جاتا ہے ، جعلی بنائیں یہاں تک کہ آپ اسے بنائیں۔ ایک بار جب آپ تیاری کرلیتے ہیں تو ، اپنے آپ کو بتادیں کہ آپ تیار ہیں۔ موسیقی اور O کو سنیں جو آپ کو عام طور پر دنیا اور اپنے بارے میں اچھا محسوس کرتا ہے۔ کچھ لوگ محرک گفتگو ، تقاریر سننے کا انتخاب کرتے ہیں۔ رہنمائی کرنے والے مراقبہ یا ان کے پیپ ٹاک کو ریکارڈ کرنا۔ جو بھی آپ کے لئے مناسب ہے ، اس کے لئے جائیں۔


جب آپ اپنے انٹرویو کی منزل تک پہنچیں تو موسیقی یا کسی بھی خوش آواز کو بند کرنا نہ بھولیں۔ انٹرویو سائٹ پر اپنے ہیڈ فون یا ایئرفون رکھنے سے آپ مشغول یا جگہ سے باہر نظر آتے ہیں۔ انٹرویو والے مقام پر پیشگی دورہ کرنا بھی تیاری کا ایک اچھا طریقہ ہے کیونکہ ناواقف ماحول زیادہ غیر یقینی صورتحال کا باعث ہوتا ہے۔


ایک اور بدترین منظر ہے جو انٹرویو کے دن ایک ڈراؤنے خواب بن سکتا ہے۔ ٹریفک میں پھنس جانا ، انٹرویو کے لئے کھو جانا یا دیر سے بھاگ جانا ، پھڑپھڑاہٹ اور پسینے سے بدترین صورت حال ہوسکتی ہے۔ اپنے آپ کو اضافی وقت دینا ضروری ہے۔ اگر آپ پہلے منزل مقصود پر پہنچ جاتے ہیں تو ، آپ ہمیشہ انٹرویو سائٹ کے ساتھ ہی ایسی جگہ پر جاسکتے ہیں ، آرام کر سکتے ہیں ، تازہ کاری اور دوبارہ ہائیڈریٹ کرسکتے ہیں۔


3. مایوسی کو چارج نہ لینے دیں


یہ یاد رکھنا ضروری ہے کہ نوکری کا انٹرویو بہت سارے لوگوں کے درمیان صرف ایک موقع ہے اس سے قطع نظر کہ آپ کو ملازمت کی کتنی ضرورت ہے۔ آپ کا پورا مستقبل اس مخصوص کام پر منحصر نہیں ہے خاص طور پر کہ اس پوزیشن کے بارے میں زیادہ نہیں کہا گیا ہے۔ یہ کاغذ پر اچھا لگ سکتا ہے لیکن یہ یقینی بات ہے کہ آپ کے لئے دستیاب واحد موقع نہیں ہے۔


انٹرویو لینے والے کے نقطہ نظر میں ضرورت ہی عجیب معلوم ہوتی ہے۔ پرجوش ہونا اچھا ہے۔ آپ کو انٹرویو کو پہلی تاریخ کے طور پر دیکھنا ہوگا جہاں آپ کو اپنی بہترین خوبیوں کو ظاہر کرنے اور دوسری پارٹی کو متاثر کرنے کی ضرورت ہوگی۔ یہ موقع نہیں ہے کہ آپ اپنی عجیب و غریب کیفیت اور کسی ایسے شخص کی خصوصیات کو ظاہر کریں جس کو پہلے تاریخ کے لئے بیئر دیا گیا ہے۔


انٹرویو میں جو کچھ بھی ہوتا ہے وہ سیکھنے کا موقع ہوتا ہے اور آپ کو ایک ایسا تجربہ فراہم کرتا ہے جو آپ کو اگلی ملازمت کے انٹرویو کے لئے بہتر امیدوار اور طویل مدت میں ماہر بنائے گا۔ اپنے تمام اعتماد کو سامنے لانے پر توجہ مرکوز کریں اور اس بات پر قابو رکھیں کہ آپ کسی انٹرویو کے دوران اپنے آپ کو کس طرح پیش کرتے ہیں۔ انٹرویو لینے والے کے فیصلے پر قابو پانا آسان نہیں ہے لیکن آپ پر قابو پانا بہت مدد دے گا۔


یہ ضروری ہے کہ آپ کو یاد رہے کہ آپ وہاں موجود ہیں کیونکہ انٹرویو لینے والے آپ کے اسکریننگ انٹرویو کے دوران یا آپ کے تجربے کی فہرست سے متاثر ہوئے تھے۔ لہذا ، اس زبردست وجہ کے پیش نظر ، آپ کو اپنے انٹرویو کے دن دکھاو and اور بہترین نمائش کرنا آسان ہے۔



4. اعتماد میں اضافے اور آرام دہ تکنیکوں کا استعمال


انٹرویو کے دوران آپ اپنے اعتماد کو بڑھا سکتے ہیں اور پرسکون رہ سکتے ہیں جس میں دماغی امیجری اور سانس لینے کی ورزش کی تکنیک شامل ہیں جو اعصابی امیدواروں کے لئے بالکل کام کرتی ہیں۔ گھبراہٹ کے خلاف ایسی تکنیکوں میں شامل ہیں:


ڈھکنے والی طاقت جسمانی زبان کی ایک آسان سی تدبیر آپ کے اعتماد کو فوری طور پر بڑھاوا دینے اور انٹرویو کی اچھی کارکردگی کو بہتر بنانے میں مدد فراہم کرسکتی ہے۔ پاور پوز کرنے کی تکنیک آپ کے انٹرویو سے پہلے ہی ہیرو کی طرح پوز کرنے میں ہیں۔ آپ سپرمین یا حیرت زدہ عورت کے ساتھ جانے کا انتخاب کرسکتے ہیں اور اعتماد کے ساتھ اپنے کولہوں اور پیروں پر اپنے ہاتھوں سے مضبوطی سے کھڑے ہوسکتے ہیں۔ ایسا کرنے کے لئے یہ ایک بیوقوف اور غیر اہم کام کی طرح لگتا ہے ، لیکن طاقت پیدا کرنا واقعتا بہت سے معاملات میں مدد کرتا ہے اور کام کرتا ہے۔ یہ آپ کی مصروف کیمیا کو تبدیل کرتا ہے جیسا کہ ایک حالیہ تحقیق میں دکھایا گیا ہے جس میں کہا گیا ہے کہ پاور پوزنگ تناؤ کے ہارمون (کورٹیسول) کو کم کرتی ہے اور غلبہ ہارمونز (ٹیسٹوسٹیرون) کو بڑھاتا ہے۔ امکان ہے کہ اعلی پوزر کے انٹرویو لینے والوں کو انٹرویو لینے والوں کے ذریعہ خدمات حاصل کرنے کے مواد کے طور پر منتخب کیا جائے گا۔ مرکزی انٹرویو سے پہلے اپنے پرسنٹ نجی میں آزمانا مثالی ہے۔


مثبت تصور. اپنے اعصاب کو پرسکون کرنے کے لئے ایک کامیاب انٹرویو کا تصور دیکھنا ضروری ہے۔ آپ اپنے آپ کو ایک ایسے کمرے میں تصویر بنا سکتے ہیں جہاں آپ حیرت انگیز نقوش ڈال رہے ہو اور بصری امیجز میں انٹرویو کی مثبتیت کا احساس دلواسکتے ہیں۔ اعتماد کو بڑھاوا دیا جاتا ہے خاص طور پر جب آپ بصریوں کے ساتھ مضبوط مثبت امتزاج کرتے ہیں۔ اپنے خیالات پر توجہ مرکوز کرنے اور زیادہ اعتماد کے ل better بہتر جگہ بنانے کا یہ ایک آسان طریقہ ہے۔


آپ کی سانس کی ایکسپلور کر رہا ہے۔ انٹرویو کے دوران اپنی سانسوں کی بے چینی کو کم کرنے کے ل the ان تکنیکوں کی تلاش اور جاننے کے ل. اہم ہیں جن کا استعمال آپ کر سکتے ہیں۔ ایک عمدہ گہری سانس یا توقف انٹرویو کے دوران حیرت کا کام کرسکتا ہے اور خوف و ہراس یا کسی بھی طرح کے ہنگاموں کو کم کرنے میں مدد ملتی ہے۔ پریشانی آسانی سے آپ کی سانس کو متاثر کرتی ہے جو اتنی تیز اور تیز سانس لینا آپ کی آواز اور جسمانی زبان کو متاثر کرتی ہے۔


اپنی رفتار کو منظم کرنا۔ جب بےچینی چارج ہوجائے تو ، آپ خود کو تیز الفاظ میں بات کرنے پر ٹھوکریں لگائیں گے۔ گھبرائے ہوئے رہنا آپ کی تقریر اور انداز پسندی کو تیز کرتا ہے اور جو کچھ مانگا ہے اس پر غور کرنے سے پہلے ہی آپ کو بولنے کا سبب بن سکتا ہے۔ رش کے جوابات کے طور پر جب آپ کے رکنے پر اعتماد ہو تو آپ کو کچھ ایسا کہنا پڑ سکتا ہے جس کا جواب آپ نے دینا نہیں تھا۔ انٹرویو لینے والوں سے توقع ہے کہ انٹرویوز کو جواب دینے سے پہلے توقف اور چیز ہو گی ، خاص طور پر جب پیچیدہ جوابات شامل ہوں۔


ری ڈائریکٹ سوالات۔ آپ کو سوالات کو ری ڈائریکٹ کرنے کی اجازت ہے۔ آپ کے پوچھے جانے والے ہر سوال کے تمام جوابات ممکنہ طور پر نہیں ہوسکتے ہیں اور بعض اوقات انٹرویو لینے والے آپ کے رد عمل کا اندازہ لگانے کے لئے جان بوجھ کر دباؤ والے سوالات پوچھیں گے۔ اس سے نمٹنے کا ایک بہترین طریقہ یہ ہے کہ سوال کو احسن طریقے سے اسی طرح کے ایک واقف موضوع کے ساتھ رجوع کیا جائے جو اس عمل میں اپنی طاقت کا خاکہ پیش کرتے ہیں۔ ایسا کرتے وقت آپ کو پرسکون اور جمع ہونا چاہئے اور کسی بھی سوال کو اپنے ٹون انٹرویو کو تبدیل کرنے کی اجازت نہیں دیں گے۔ آپ کی توجہ اس بات پر ہونی چاہئے کہ آپ اپنے اگلے سوالوں کا کس حد تک جواب دیں گے اور آخر تک آپ کا ایک کامیاب انٹرویو ہوگا۔


انٹرویو کے سوالات کے جوابات


اکثر اوقات انٹرویو کرنے والوں کو یہ نہ جانے خوف کے ساتھ سامنا کرنا پڑتا ہے کہ انٹرویو لینے والا کیا پوچھے گا اور غلط جواب دینے سے ڈر جائے گا۔ یہ نوٹ کرنا ضروری ہے کہ زیادہ تر انٹرویو لینے والے اسی طرح کے سوالات پوچھیں گے جیسے آپ سے اپنے ذاتی مفادات ، اپنے بارے میں ، صلاحیتوں اور ان کی فرموں میں آپ کی شراکت کے بارے میں پوچھیں گے ، آپ کو کیوں لگتا ہے کہ آپ ان کی کمپنی میں فٹ ہوجاتے ہیں اور دوسرے عام سوالات کا خلاصہ کرتے ہیں۔


تنظیم کے بارے میں متعلقہ معلومات سے اپنے آپ کو منانا ضروری ہے۔ اپنا وقت نکالیں اور ان تنظیموں کی پالیسیوں ، ماضی ، حال اور مستقبل کے کامیاب منصوبوں کے بارے میں تحقیقات کریں۔ اگر آپ وہاں سے کسی کو جانتے ہیں تو ان سے ان کے موجودہ منصوبوں کے بارے میں پوچھیں اور انٹرویو سے قبل کمپنی کے کلچر سے اپنے آپ کو واقف کروائیں۔


6. آپ کا تجربہ دکھا رہا ہے


لوگ ان تعلیمی ملازمتوں کے لئے درخواست دیتے ہیں جن کو وہ اپنے تعلیمی پس منظر اور تجربے کے لحاظ سے مناسب قرار دیتے ہیں۔ تاہم ، آپ کے پاس وہ لوگ ہیں اور یہ تاثر چھوڑنے سے خوفزدہ ہیں کہ آپ کو ، شاید اتنا معلوم نہ ہو۔ آپ اس خوف کو کسی ایسے شخص کی تلاش کر کے ختم کرسکتے ہیں جس کو ایسی پوسٹ میں تجربہ ہو اور اس سے سبق حاصل کرو۔ لنکڈ ان پیشہ ور افراد کو حاصل کرنے اور ان کی کتابیات کے بارے میں جاننے کے ل to ایک بہترین جگہ ہے جہاں ان کے اہم سنگ میلوں اور انھوں نے وہاں جانے کے لئے جو اقدامات اٹھائے ہیں ان پر توجہ دیتے ہیں۔ ایک انٹرویو کے دوران آپ کی پیش کش کا بیک اپ لینے کے لئے آپ کا تجربہ کار اچھی طرح لکھنا چاہئے۔


7. تنظیم میں دلچسپی دکھائیں


اپنے انٹرویو کو سنبھالنے والے تنظیم کے مشنوں میں حقیقی دلچسپیاں ظاہر کرنا یہ سوچنے کے خوف کو ختم کرنے کا ایک طریقہ ہے کہ انٹرویوز آپ کو کم ترغیب دیتے ہیں۔ حقیقی طور پر مسکرانا ، گفتگو میں حصہ لینا ، انٹرویو لینے والے سے مشغول ہونا اور تنظیم کے بارے میں سوالات پوچھنا ضروری ہے۔ یہ ظاہر کرنے کا ایک طریقہ ہے کہ آپ کی دلچسپی کتنی حقیقی ہے اور آپ اس طرح کی آسان اور حقیقی کارروائیوں کے ذریعہ ملازمت اختیار کرسکتے ہیں۔


انٹرویو میں شرکت کرنے والے زیادہ تر لوگوں کو ان چیزوں سے ڈر لگتا ہے جن کے بارے میں وہ نہیں جانتے ہیں۔ سسپنس ایک پریشانی پیدا کرتی ہے خاص طور پر جب ایسی باتوں کی بات آ. جو کسی کے مستقبل سے وابستہ ہوں۔ آپ ہمیشہ مشکل اور ناپسندیدہ خیالات رکھیں گے جیسے مجھے یہ نوکری ملے گی؟ کیا یہ ساری کوششیں اچھ talkی باتیں کرنے ، اچھ lookا نظر آنے ، اور اچھ presentationی پیش کش کرنے کی واقعی ایک بہت بڑی تاثر چھوڑ دیتی ہیں؟ اور بہت سارے غیر ضروری سوالات کیونکہ آپ کو معلوم نہیں ہے کہ انٹرویو کے دوران کیا گزرے گا۔ یہ وجہ انٹرویو کو خوفناک بناتی ہے۔


ایک انٹرویو لینے والے کی حیثیت سے ، یہ ضروری ہے کہ آپ انٹرویو کے لئے جانے سے پہلے اپنی جذباتی اور ذہنی حالت سے پوری طرح واقف ہوں۔ سب سے پہلے ، آپ کو اور آپ کے ذہن میں آنے والے خوف کے بارے میں سوچو اور اس کی جانچ پڑتال کرو اور انٹرویو کے کمرے میں قدم رکھنے سے پہلے ان پر قابو پانے کے ممکنہ طریقوں کے بارے میں جان لو۔

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